Chamomile tea and patience

There are many times in my life where I could have used a little patience.  The most recent was last year when I made a hasty decision to sell all my belongings, pack up the few things I had left and moved across the country.  

Though I needed the experience in my life, it came with many regrets.  I hadn’t thought out thoroughly the effect the move would have on me, my family, and some very special friends that were in my life at the time.  I hurt a lot of people in my haste to live a “better life”.  But that’s a story for another time. Perhaps never.  I still hurt over that lesson.

I think if I had drunk a cup of chamomile tea each night before I went to bed for a month prior to my decision to move, I would have been relaxed enough to make a more rational decision.  As it turned out, all I really needed to get to this better life I sought, and now live was a little patience.

Learning Patience

5 Things To Learn To Become A Patient Person

Impatiently waiting won’t make time go by faster
  • Gratefulness

Are you wondering what connection gratitude has to do with patience?  An example of this is if you were told you could have $30 dollars today or if you could have $100 if you wait for thirty days.  To yield the higher dividend, you would have to reel in your need for instant gratification and be grateful for what you have so that you can be patient as you wait for the greater good you will get.  The aforementioned conclusion was assessed by Ye Li, researcher, an assistant professor at the University of California, Riverside School of Business Administration did a study on Patience and told the findings to the Association for Psychological Science.


  • Why?

Have you asked yourself why you are feeling impatient?  Sometimes a lack of patience is due to a need to eat.  Other times it’s due to lack of planning and feeling rushed.  These are issues that can be prevented, thereby helping you to be a patient person, especially when driving or having to wait in line.  Becoming mindful of what you are feeling, and why, will aid in helping you to control your reactions to stressful situations, as well as, plan what you need to make yourself comfortable.


  • Breathe

Relaxation breathing techniques can be implored when you feel yourself reacting poorly, and becoming impatient.  Start with a deep breath, hold it a second, and then release it slowly for five seconds.  When you do this three times in a row, you should feel yourself calming down.  You can then bring your mind under control so that you can be more understanding of the limitations you may be facing in that setting.


  • Acceptance

Once you realize a situation is out of your control, you can then choose to act out, or accept it.  When you accept your situation, then you can grow as a person.  Being able to embrace that you are out of your comfort zone will help you gain patience.

There we have it.  These are some secrets to learning the quality of patience.  Have you had to be patient?  Leave me a comment, and tell me about the situation, and what you did to force yourself to be patient.

I love a relaxing cup of herbal tea.  Chamomile is a favorite tea of mine an hour before bed.  It has properties in it that aid in relaxation and sleep.  

There are many other ways it can be used.  See below, how to make chamomile tea with fresh chamomile flowers.

First, you’ll want to pick a pot to make your tea in. An infuser teapot, as pictured, is ideal. If you don’t have a tea infuser, you can use a doubled over cheesecloth and a piece of string to make a makeshift tea bag. You can even place your flowers into a heat safe bowl or cup and, after steeping, pour your tea into your teacup through a fine mesh strainer.
Once you’ve selected a pot you’ll want to harvest your herbs. For the chamomile flowers, it’s ideal to use them the same day they are harvested, as the delicate petals have a short shelf life. Otherwise, they can last a couple of days in the refrigerator, in a plastic bag with a lightly dampened paper towel. To prepare the chamomile for use, pop the head of the flower off the stem. They can even be harvested this way so that they are immediately ready for use. For the mint, select a small sprig, about the size of a quarter off of the tender top of the plant. I selected a variety of mint called apple mint because fresh chamomile also has apple undertones, so they complemented each other perfectly. Peppermint is also delicious.



3-4 Tbsp fresh chamomile flowers

1 small, fresh sprig of mint

8 oz boiling water

  1. Place your flowers into a heat safe bowl or cup.  Heat your water and steep your flowers in the hot water after wrapping them in cheesecloth.  When steeping is complete, pour your tea into your teacup through a fine mesh strainer.
  2. Chamomile flowers, are ideal to use the same day they are harvested. The petals being very delicate have a short shelf life. Pop the head of the flower off the stem. They can even be harvested this way, so that they are immediately ready for use. Select a small sprig of mint about the size of a quarter off of the tender top of the plant.
  3. Place water in your tea kettle and heat it. Using 3-4 Tbsp (4 for a stronger tea) of chamomile and your mint sprig into your teapot or makeshift tea bag of choice.
  4. Pour 8 oz of boiling water over the chamomile flowers and mint and then steep for 5 minutes. To serve, pour into a teacup, using a fine mesh strainer as needed.

Did you know that patience is the attribute associated with the chamomile plant? Here is something that I recently learned.  The art of associating meaning to flowers is called Floriography.  The oldest usage of it is dated back to the seventeenth century and came from the Japanese.  They call it Hanakotoba.  The popularity of Floriography happened in the Victorian error.  During that time, flowers were used to express feelings, or emotions that were difficult to express in words in person.  Flowers became a language.

Let me give you an example of how the language would be used.  

Once upon a time, there was a man named Charles who fell in love with a neighbor’s daughter.  Her name was Helen.  Her father was a herder of pigs, and though he was quite wealthy from his occupation, it was not one looked at in high society.  Charles mother was very much hankering to be a part of the Ton.  The Ton being the women of high society and royal breeding.  Charles had asked Helen to be his wife and she had agreed, however, he wanted to pick just the right time to tell his mother of his intentions.  After six months of waiting Helen had grown impatient with Charles and threatened to call off the engagement.  She didn’t know that Charles had finally found the perfect time to tell his mother.  So he sent a bouquet Chamomile and daisies.  It came with a note that simply said Saturday.  Saturday was Charles’ parent’s anniversary party, and Helen and her family were to attend.  Helen was satiated with the floral message of patience and hope, knowing her time of waiting for their love to be publicized was soon to come.  At the party when his mother was inebriated from wine and a successful party, Charles quieted everyone to make an announcement.  He toasted the love of his parents and confessed he too was in love and hoped his love would last as many happy years as theirs, to his beloved Helen.  Everyone cheered and Charles mother, though shocked and very disappointed in his choice, did not go into hysteria, but hugged her son and congratulated her new daughter in law to be.

The above story highlight one of the ways flowers would have been used in the Victorian era to communicate.  Flowers weren’t always used in such a romantic way as many romantic stories set in that error would have you think.  But I like to think that the language of the flower was used for love, and happiness only.

Have you ever used Floriography to communicate with someone?  Has anyone sent you a bouquet message?  If so tell me your story below in the comments.  I’m a hopeless romantic who would love to hear it.

The Japanese call it Hanakotoba and King Charles II brought it to Sweden from Persia in the 17th century. Hanakotoba is the Japanese name for associating certain flowers with different meanings. It is an age-old art form. Floriography – a fancy name for the language of flowers – was coined in the Victorian era, and while its original translations may have shifted over time, the notion that through flower symbolism we can express what we want to say (and may not be able to speak out loud) still holds true.



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